Women Cause The Pain That Other Women Face.

It is beginning to piss me off. Every-time, we are blaming men for their inability to stay with one woman, for their promiscuous or  licentious way of life. Firstly, my dearest girls, let us free our selfs from this self pitying hypocritical attitude and embrace the truth, "Cheating is not a man's problem, it is a gender problem". It is only more pronounced in men because, though men lie a lot, they are terrible at it, and the society has also provided the man the profligate free zone mentality, meaning, when and if a man cheats, they will say "he is just being a man", but women are more discreet in this very action, they are better liars, they are in self-denial of this reality, because yet again, they blame the man each time they wilfully open up their legs as though it was some kind of psychological rape. "Self deceit is sadly very real".

How good a liar is a woman? Damn! The very best. A girl I once had a conversation with, about how I could detect if i had a cheating wife told me to my then confident face, "If I am your wife and we have four children, even if they are not yours, you will pay school fees till the day you die without knowing that they are not yours". At this point, the confidence on my face took a long vacation. Truth is, men cheat, not with themselves, but probably with a woman who has a man too. Ask most girls if they are in a serious relationship, 80% will tell you, "Well! nothing serious" And they continue to see both guys with the gender logical excuse that they are on a clock and so, they need to maximize time to find the right guy, and in most cases until perhaps they make up their minds on one, this stupidity continues. Is this not cheating? because when a guys does this, he becomes a demon that escaped from hell. who is fooling who?
 A woman meets a married man and cheats with him, tomorrow she decides to settle down with a man of her own and she finds out that he cheated with a younger version of her, Hello! What goes around comes around.

If you now agree with me that cheating is a gender issue, then, let's look at the root cause of cheating. 

Firstly, I would say Modesty is the root cause of cheating. It is after-all a known fact that men are moved by what they see. Girls popularly use the term, "dressed to kill", It is literally killing; It kills marriages, relationship, virtue, commitment, purity, and sometimes,  it takes life. The eyes are windows to the soul and what a man sees, he perceives. English 18th-century dress is renowned for its enveloping nature and the period saw fashions for its elaborate wigs, rich embroidery and full skirts, women were extremely modest and elegant. Their beautiful well patterned and modest gowns gave them a DIVINE look. It was impossible not to see them as a LADY. Only a society full of ladies deserve GENTLEMEN. Men held doors for women, helped them climb carriages and horses, in simple words, they treated them with respect. Woman were called "beautiful", "elegant", "graceful", simply because of the way they dressed. They were not objectified like the women of today. With all the laws put in place by governments of various countries and several global institutions and organization in a bid to protect women, the woman still reduces herself to an object or sight of illicit attraction. Like a museum for 18 and above. 

A girl dresses scantily and she gets compliments like "baby! you are hot", she is reduced to a temperature or "baby! you look take away", reducing her to a fast-food take out pack. At least, when words like "You look like an angel" were used, though they were unreal, it venerate a woman not reduce her to a thing. Now, this is where it gets interesting. Women, a lot of them, know exactly what they are doing. As long as this dresses get the men under their spell, he buys them what they want, when they want it and treat them like royalties on a clock, it is fine and good. They forget that it is a spell, and like all spells, at the stroke of midnight, the real Cinderella is exposed, only that in this case, it is the wicked step mother we see. At this stage, because it is not a rooted relationship, rather it was one based on appearances and lies, when and if the man walks away from the relationship, she tags him a "monster" calls, her girls and begin to cry over ice-cream with wet tissues littering everywhere as they talk about how men are the worse thing that happened to the world, and then, tomorrow, they take to social media and start writing shit. "Stop it! I have had enough". Stop playing the victim if this is the case with you. It is greed to want to eat your cake and have it.   

Immodesty increasing crimes like rape and molestation. It is like a chain reaction, When a woman wears short or revealing dressing, she deposits images into the man's mind and this images continually grow in proportion  to the rate of nearly naked women he comes in contact. Not all men can practice self control as not all women can say no to money. So a pervert who is desperate to ease his animalistic desires, sometimes, picks the object that initiated the instinct as a worthy prey. You don't display your goods in the market if you are not willing to sell. If you went to the market to buy salt and all the sellers told you they were not selling, naturally, it instigate a wildly irritated response from us and sometimes, even violent and forceful. You would say things like "Then what the hell are you doing here". 

The ladies of the night understand this term and they live by it. It is the mark of their trade and they are not in denial. When a decent girl decides to dress like a lady of the night, then she will be treated like one. After-all, the way you dress is the way you will be addressed. If you are going to a guy's house and you are looking to make a statement of "No sex till Marriage", and yet you wear micro mini with slit and a top that exposes your cleavage, you are a hypocrite and the guy will see you as a pretender.

Like I said, women cause the pain that other women face. A man in most cases is just caught in the madness.